I recently read portions of a study, and a correspondent’s review,  which showed the dramatic rise of co-habiting couples in the United States.

According to Carol Morello, reporting on a recent Pew Study, “The proportion of adults who are married has plunged to record lows as more people decide to live together now and wed later, reflecting decades of evolving attitudes about the role of marriage in society.”  Just 51 percent of all adults who are 18 and older are married, placing them on the brink of becoming a minority, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of census statistics to be released Wednesday. That represents a steep drop from 57 percent who were married in 2000.  Read more …

Fearful of marriage or commitment, or torn from the institution as a result of the tidal wave displacing the truth about its purpose and sanctity, it’s become the predominant trend.

Mormons–a nickname for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints believe in the centrality of families in God’s plan and their demise is an intentioned plan of the proponent of all evil himself–scratch, or realistically, Satan. He’s played a magic trick–worked the media into believing that the rabbit of marriage should disappear, maneuvering enough handkerchiefs around a mesmerized audience to convince them it’s all okay, and all in the name of diversity.  People, hypnotized by the hype about choosing any brand of sexuality and sexual relationship as if it’s a choice between vanilla and chocolate rather than a moral choice, are hunkering down together, and fearful, perhaps of a marriage commitment.  Latter-day Saints, or Mormons, are strong proponents of healthy marriages.  Theirs, too, are marked by casualties of divorce, but less so than those of the world, and less so than all of those who co-habit and then marry.  Co-habitors who marry actually increase their likelihood of divorce rather than reduce it. Not a surprise. The Lord’s plan is the right one.

Mormons’ believe in abstinence before marriage and fidelity in marriage.  They invite God literally into their relationship as they kneel across a beautiful altar in a dedicated House of the Lord–or Mormon temple–and covenant or promise to each other and to God an acceptance of His laws and of one another before witnesses who record the event on earth and heaven.  Mormon marriage is intended to be eternal, conditioned upon the kept covenants of each participating spouse.  God has a perfect plan in place for imperfect people. He offers His grace, power, blessing, Hand on a marriage where couples promise and strive, however imperfectly, to live His laws which bring the greatest happiness and peace, through thick and thin, through easy times and rough roads of mortality.  Marriage is intended to be a place where mercy and love are learned, where individuals are tested and the opportunity exists to love as Christ loves–unconditionally, sacrificially, openly, vulnerably–and to progress in the path to eternal life together.  Mormons believe in more than a death-do-you-part marriage; again, marriage, and Mormon marriage–those performed in holy temples of God (Mormon temples) are meant to be eternal.

Mormon Beliefs: Chastity

It’s true that the dominant evil in the world today is unchastity. President Joseph F. Smith chose these words to be written above his signature while he was living:

No more loathsome cancer disfigures the body and soul of society today than the frightful affliction of sexual sin. It vitiates the very fountains of He who is unchaste in young manhood is untrue to a trust given to him by the parents of the girl, and she who is unchaste in maidenhood is untrue to her future husband, and lays the foundation of unhappiness in the home, suspicion, and discord. Do not worry about these teachers who say something about inhibitions. Just keep in mind this eternal truth that chastity is a virtue to be prized as one of life’s noblest achievements. It contributes to the virility of manhood. It is the crowning virtue of womanhood, and every red-blooded man knows that is true. It is a chief contributing factor to a happy home; it is the source of strength and perpetuity of the nation.

David O. McKay, late apostle of Jesus Christ (Latter-day Saint or “Mormon”), shared, through literature, as he addressed a young single adult audience, that there “is no loss of prestige in maintaining in a dignified way one’s standards.”

He stated: I thought of a great illustration in literature wherein a Jewish maiden won the respect even of a profligate.

Read the story of Rebecca, that beautiful character in Sir Walter Scott’s “Ivanhoe,” who was the prisoner of Brian de Bois-Guilbert. He had chosen her for base reasons. Others of his crowd chose the old father to rob him of his wealth. When Brian de Bois-Guilbert came in to take charge of his prize, Rebecca “had already unclasped two costly bracelets and a collar, which she hastened to proffer to the supposed outlaw, concluding naturally to gratify his avarice was to bespeak his favor.” “Take these,” she said, “and be merciful to me and my aged father! These ornaments are of value, yet they are trifling to what he would bestow, to obtain our dismissal from this castle, free and uninjured.”

“Fair flower,” replied the outlaw, “These pearls are orient, but they yield in whiteness to your teeth; the diamonds are brilliant, but they cannot match your eyes; and ever since I have taken up this wild trade, I have made a vow to prefer beauty to wealth.”

“Thou art no outlaw,” said Rebecca; “No outlaw had refused such offers. . . Thou art a Norman—a Norman, noble perhaps in birth—Oh be so in thy actions, and cast off this fearful masque of outrage and violence!”

“I am not an outlaw, then, fair rose of Sharon. And I am one who will be more prompt to hang thy neck and arms with pearls and diamonds, which so well become them, than to deprive thee of these ornaments.”

“What would’st thou have of me,” said Rebecca, “if not my wealth?—We can have nought in common between us—you are a Christian—I am a Jewess—our union were contrary to the laws alike of the church and the synagogue.”

“It were so, indeed,” replied Brian de Bois-Guilbert, laughing: “wed with a Jewess?—not if she were the Queen of Sheba!”

And then Rebecca knew his purpose. She threw open the latticed window, and an instant later stood on the verge of the parapet, with not the slightest screen between her and the tremendous depth below, and exclaimed: “Remain where thou art, proud Templar, or at thy choice, advance!—one foot nearer, and I plunge myself from the precipice; my body shall be crushed out of the very form of humanity upon the stones of that court-yard, ere it become the victim of thy brutality!”

As she spoke this, she clasped her hands and extended them towards Heaven, as if imploring mercy on her soul before she made the final plunge. The Templar hesitated, and a resolution which had never yielded to pity or disgrace, gave way to his admiration of her fortitude. “Come down,” he said, “Rash girl—I swear by earth, and sea, and sky, I will offer thee no offence.”

And the reprobate for the first time in his life was taught respect for womanhood.

You can be in this world and “not of the world.” Keep your chastity above everything else.

Source:

David O. McKay, Stepping Stones to an Abundant Life, Deseret Book, pp 11-13.

Mormon doctrines and beliefs are centered on Jesus Christ and Heavenly Father’s plan for His children.

The fundamental principles of our religion are the testimony of the Apostles and Prophets, concerning Jesus Christ, that he died, was buried, and rose again the third day, and ascended into heaven; and all other things which pertain to our religion are only appendages to it (History of the Church, 3:30).

~ Joseph Smith, founding prophet

Heavenly Father’s plan answers the questions about where we came from, why we’re here and what happens when we die. We are all spirit children of God and lived with Him in heaven before we came to earth. We wanted to be like Him and live as He does, but we were not yet prepared to do so. We came to earth to receive a physical body, knowing that we would not remember our home in heaven. Our time on earth was to learn, grow, progress and be tested to see if we would follow the commandments of God. This was the only way that we could qualify ourselves to return to the presence of God and live as He does. But in the course of our mortal journey, God knew that we would sin, cutting ourselves off spiritually from God. As mortals, we would also be subject to physical death.

Heavenly Father provided a way to overcome these barriers through the Atonement of His Son, Jesus Christ, which includes the Resurrection. Thus, Christ is the central figure in this plan. All of the other doctrines and principles of the gospel are appendages to these truths.

The Plan of Salvation

We are all spirit children of our Heavenly Father. We lived with Him in heaven before we were born and desired to be like Him—a perfected, resurrected being with a body of flesh and bone. The Church of Jesus Christ teaches,

God is the Father of our spirits. We are literally His children, and He loves us. We lived as spirit children of our Father in Heaven before we were born on this earth. We were not, however, like our Heavenly Father, nor could we ever become like Him and enjoy all the blessings that He enjoys without the experience of living in mortality with a physical body.

God’s whole purpose—His work and His glory—is to enable each of us to enjoy all His blessings (Preach My Gospel, 2004, 48).

To become as He is and enjoy all of His blessings, we would have to qualify ourselves by choosing to obey His commandments. It was likely relatively simple to obey His commandments when we lived in heaven. But that was not enough. We would have to be born into mortality, into a fallen world, with no memory of our heavenly home nor what we learned there, and still choose to obey His commandments in all things.

Our agency—our ability to choose and act for ourselves—was an essential element of this plan. Without agency we would be unable to make right choices and progress. Yet with agency we could make wrong choices, commit sin, and lose the opportunity to be with Heavenly Father again.

~ Robert D. Hales, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

A Brief Outline of the Plan of Salvation

The main points of the plan of salvation are:

1. The earth was created as a place for us to learn and progress.
2. Because of the fall of Adam and Eve, we are physically separated from God.
3. Through our sins, we are spiritually separated from God.
4. Physical death is the separation of our spirits from our physical bodies.
5. Jesus Christ is the Savior and Redeemer because He performed the Atonement to overcome the barriers that separate us from God.
6. Jesus Christ also broke the bands of death through His Atonement, which means that our spirits and bodies will be reunited during time of the Resurrection.
7. Our eternal destination will depend upon our choices. Rather than being strictly a heaven or hell, there will be degrees of glory that we can obtain.
8. The plan of salvation includes all of the doctrines, covenants, ordinances and teachings that will lead us back to the presence of God.

The Importance of Agency

Why is agency, or our ability to choose for ourselves, so important to the plan of salvation? Agency isn’t just part of the plan, it is the plan.

The purpose of mortal life for the children of God is to provide the experiences needed “to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life.” As President Thomas S. Monson taught …, we progress by making choices, by which we are tested to show that we will keep God’s commandments (see Abraham 3:25). To be tested, we must have the agency to choose between alternatives. To provide alternatives on which to exercise our agency, we must have opposition.

~ Dallin H. Oaks, First Presidency

Opposition means opposing forces—light and dark, health and sickness, pleasure and pain, bitter and sweet. How are we to choose if there is but one option?

A life without problems or limitations or challenges—life without “opposition in all things” … —would paradoxically but in very fact be less rewarding and less ennobling than one which confronts—even frequently confronts—difficulty and disappointment and sorrow.

~ Jeffrey R. Holland, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Ennoble is an important word here.

Ennoble: to elevate in degree, excellence or respect: dignify; exalt

Our Heavenly Father sent us here to ennoble us. And it is through opposition that He does so. Sometimes the opposition comes from our own choices, sometimes from the choices of others, and other times just because we live in a fallen world. It is how we choose to respond to this opposition that will either dignify and exalt us or bring us down. It is, indeed, the test of this mortal life. It was also the test of our premortal life. Heavenly Father did not send us here without our permission. We chose to follow His plan.

The Fall of Adam and Eve

Latter-day Saints believe the power of choice is so important that even our first parents, Adam and Eve, had to choose to leave the presence of God and the Garden of Eden. And they had to do so without the knowledge of our pre-earth life.

Adam and Eve were created in God’s image with bodies of flesh and bone. While in the Garden of Eden, they were still in the presence of God and could have lived there forever. They could not progress, and they could not have children. They did, however, have their agency. Heavenly Father commanded them to not partake of the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, which was the forbidden fruit. Satan provided the opposition by tempting them to eat the forbidden fruit.

They were given the choice either to remain in the garden or to partake of the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil and have the opportunity of experiencing mortality. They accepted the challenge, partook of the fruit, and thus became mortal and subject to physical death. Because of their choice, they would experience all of the trials and difficulties of mortality.

~ L. Tom Perry, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Some people have criticized Adam and Eve for this choice. But Latter-day Saints believe this was part of Heavenly Father’s plan.

For reasons that have not been revealed, this transition, or “fall,” could not happen without a transgression—an exercise of moral agency amounting to a willful breaking of a law (see Moses 6:59). This would be a planned offense, a formality to serve an eternal purpose.

~ Dallin H. Oaks, First Presidency

Because Adam and Eve transgressed God’s commandment, they were cast out of the Garden of Eden, becoming mortal and allowing them to have children. They also became subject to physical separation from God as well as spiritual separation through sin. God knew this would happen and thus provided a Savior.

The Role of the Savior

The plan of salvation would not be complete without a way for us to return to God’s presence. It is through Jesus Christ that we are able to overcome these barriers to eternal life.

Just as Adam and Eve were not to live forever in the Garden of Eden, so our final destination was not to be planet earth. We were to return to our heavenly home.

… An infinite atonement was required to redeem Adam, Eve, and all of their posterity. … According to eternal law, that atonement required a personal sacrifice by an immortal being not subject to death. Yet He must die and take up His own body again. The Savior was the only one who could accomplish this. From His mother He inherited power to die. From His Father He obtained power over death. The Redeemer so explained:

“I lay down my life, that I might take it again.

“No man taketh it from me, but I lay it down of myself. I have power to lay it down, and I have power to take it again” (John 10:17–18).

~ Russell M. Nelson, president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

This sacrifice required One who was sinless and perfect.

The atoning power of Jesus Christ is essential because none of us can return to our heavenly home without help. In mortality, we invariably make mistakes and violate God’s laws. We become stained by sin and cannot be allowed back to live in God’s presence. We need the Savior’s atoning power so that we can be reconciled to Heavenly Father. Jesus Christ broke the bands of physical death, allowing resurrection for all. He offers forgiveness of sins, conditioned on obedience to the laws and ordinances of His gospel. Through Him, exaltation is offered. The opportunity to benefit from the Savior’s atoning power is creation’s most important payload.

~ Dale G. Renlund, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

Death and the Spirit World

Death is part of life—and the plan of salvation. When Adam and Eve were cast out of the Garden of Eden, they became mortal and subject to death. But Latter-day Saints believe that just as our birth was not the beginning, death is not the end. Death is the separation of our spirits from our physical bodies. Upon this separation, our bodies remain upon the earth while our spirits enter what is called the spirit world.

When we die, our spirits leave our bodies, and we go to the next stage of our journey, the spirit world. It is a place of learning, repentance, forgiveness, and becoming where we await the Resurrection.

~ Weatherford T. Clayton, General Authority Seventy

Death does not change our personality nor our desires for good or evil. The scriptures teach,

Ye cannot say, when ye are brought to that awful crisis, that I will repent, that I will return to my God. … For that same spirit which doth possess your bodies at the time that ye go out of this life, that same spirit will have power to possess your body in that eternal world (Alma 34:34).

Those who chose to obey God and His commandments will live in a state of happiness and peace, while those who did not repent will live in a state of unhappiness. But this is not a permanent state. Latter-day Saints believe that the work of the Lord will continue in the spirit world, so that every person who has ever lived will have the opportunity to accept or reject the gospel of Jesus Christ. (See 1 Peter 4:6.) Mormons believe the Savior Himself began teaching the dead in the spirit world. (See 1 Peter 3:18-20.)

Resurrection and Judgment

Mormons believe we will remain in the spirit world until the time of the resurrection, which will be a time of great joy when our bodies and spirits are reunited.

Life on earth is of limited duration. There comes a time for all of us when the spirit and the body are separated in death. But because of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ, we will all be resurrected, regardless of whether we have accomplished good or evil in this life. Immortality is the gift to every mortal child of our Father in Heaven. Death must be viewed as a portal to a new and better life. Through the glorious resurrection, body and spirit will be reunited. We will have a perfect, immortal body of flesh and bones that will never be subjected to pain or death. But the glory we attain to in the next life will depend on our performance in this life. Only through the gift of the Atonement and our obedience to the gospel can we return and live with God once again.

~ L. Tom Perry, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles

This is called a universal resurrection. Jesus Christ broke the bands of death for all. Through His Atonement, we will all return to the presence of our Heavenly Father for a final judgment. But only those who have qualified themselves will be able to remain. This is called exaltation.

To be exalted—or to gain exaltation—refers to the highest state of happiness and glory in the celestial realm.

~ Russell M. Nelson, president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

The Kingdoms of Glory

Latter-day Saints do not believe that heaven and hell are the only two options for the final judgment. Rather, there are degrees of glory. Our choices determine which degree of glory we obtain.

Eternal life, or celestial glory or exaltation, is a conditional gift. Conditions of this gift have been established by the Lord, who said, “If you keep my commandments and endure to the end you shall have eternal life, which gift is the greatest of all the gifts of God.” Those qualifying conditions include faith in the Lord, repentance, baptism, receiving the Holy Ghost, and remaining faithful to the ordinances and covenants of the temple.

~ Russell M. Nelson, president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

There are three kingdoms of glory: the telestial, the terrestrial and the celestial. The Church of Jesus Christ teaches,

Those who have repented of their sins and received the ordinances of the gospel and kept the associated covenants will be cleansed by the Atonement of Christ. They will receive exaltation in the highest kingdom, also known as the celestial kingdom. They will live in God’s presence, become like Him, and receive a fulness of joy. They will live together for eternity with those of their family who qualify. In the scriptures this kingdom is compared to the glory or brightness of the sun.

People who do not accept the fulness of the gospel of Jesus Christ but live honorable lives will receive a place in the terrestrial kingdom. This kingdom is compared to the glory of the moon.

Those who continued in their sins and did not repent in this life will receive their reward in the lowest kingdom, which is called the telestial kingdom. This kingdom is compared to the glory of the stars.

Heavenly Father’s Love

The plan of salvation is a reflection of Heavenly Father’s love for His children.

… Following the necessary experience of mortal life, all sons and daughters of God will ultimately be resurrected and go to a kingdom of glory. The righteous—regardless of current religious denomination or belief—will ultimately go to a kingdom of glory more wonderful than any of us can comprehend. Even the wicked, or almost all of them, will ultimately go to a marvelous—though lesser—kingdom of glory. All of that will occur because of God’s love for his children and because of the atonement and resurrection of Jesus Christ, “who glorifies the Father, and saves all the works of his hands” (Doctrine & Covenants 76:43).

~ Dallin H. Oaks, First Presidency

Mormons believe that the fulness of the gospel of Jesus Christ is found in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

The purpose of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is to help all of the children of God understand their potential and achieve their highest destiny. This church exists to provide the sons and daughters of God with the means of entrance into and exaltation in the celestial kingdom. This is a family-centered church in doctrine and practices. Our understanding of the nature and purpose of God the Eternal Father explains our destiny and our relationship in his eternal family. Our theology begins with heavenly parents. Our highest aspiration is to be like them. Under the merciful plan of the Father, all of this is possible through the atonement of the Only Begotten of the Father, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

~ Dallin H. Oaks, First Presidency

The plan of salvation and the Atonement of Jesus Christ are the central doctrines of the Mormon Church, and all other doctrines and ordinances are appendages to these core beliefs.

Mormons doctrine teaches that a good base for any family is a strong commitment between husband and wife. Mormons support a traditional view of marriage, consisting of a man and a woman lawfully wedded as husband and wife. Worthy members of the Mormon Church are married in the Mormon temple where they make eternal commitments to each other and God. An interesting fact is that the divorce rate of those who are married in the temple is lower than those who are married outside of the temple, emphasizing the seriousness of the eternal covenant and the eternal nature of the Mormon family.

Beliefs concerning the Mormon family can be found in a statement called “The Family: a Proclamation to the World.” It was released by the Prophet Gordon B. Hinckley in response to the rising liberal views on the family. The address outlines the purpose of marriage and its importance.  He reminds us of the importance of fidelity and trust in marriage.

Chastity before marriage is absolutely emphasized. Modern science upholds what the Lord has told us since the beginning of time, that chastity outside of marriage and fidelity in marriage brings happiness.

Mormon prophets have encouraged women to stay in the home and raise the children if they are financially able. This brings stability and love to the home, with the focus on the unity of the family rather than on material gain. Mormon men have been encouraged to work and provide monetarily for the family. The roles of father and mother are seen as equally important and necessary, and family culture is a matter decided upon by husband, wife, and the Lord. A number of Mormon wives work outside the home, and some Mormon fathers stay in the home, as necessary. The Mormon family is encouraged to prayerfully find a system that works for its individual financial and emotional needs.

Having and supporting a family through this life is the most important thing we can do on earth. When we die, we cannot take money, our jobs, or our material possessions with us. Family is the only thing we can take into the next life. It is through the family that we will find everlasting happiness. Through God’s plan, families can be together forever.

Further Questions about the Mormon family:

Do Mormons practice polygamy or plural marriage?
What are our roles as fathers and mothers?
How can I teach gospel principles in my home and strengthen my family?